The Birth of
Phoenix Rising Retreats
Born from a fireside vision and a year marked by love, truth, and transformation, Phoenix Rising is a sacred lakeside sanctuary where couples reconnect, heal, and come alive… together.
Set on a private, 5-acre lakefront property in Cottage Country, Ontario, this space was created from the heart… and built to hold your deepest intimacy, healing, and growth.
The name Phoenix Rising reflects what’s possible when we choose to rise… again and again… into deeper love, truth, and connection.
Kimberly Coffin
CEO, Co-Founder, Head Facilitator & Intimacy Guide
Kim is a certified trauma-informed Sex, Love, Relationship, and Tantra Teacher, Speaker, Bestselling Author & Coach who helps couples and individuals reclaim their truth, turn-on, and power.
With over 15 years of coaching experience and a personal journey of deep transformation, she brings both mastery and heart to everything she teaches.
After years of disconnection, burnout, and self-abandonment, Kim rebuilt her life from the inside out… guided by tantra, sacred sexuality, nervous system healing, and a fierce devotion to what’s real.
Through private coaching, virtual programs, and now Phoenix Rising Retreats, Kim offers a grounded, pleasure-forward path back to the body…
and back to each other.
Roberto Pellecer
CC&OO, Co-founder, Men's Coach & Sacred Partnership Facilitator
Roberto never expected to co-found a retreat centre or talk about sacred sexuality on camera. But after his relationship with Kim awakened a new understanding of intimacy, vulnerability, and embodied masculine presence, everything changed.
Today, Roberto brings heart, humour, and grounded perspective to the Phoenix Rising experience - guiding men and couples into deeper connection with themselves, each other, and the wild, sacred strength that lives beneath the surface.
Whether he’s guiding couples through polarity practices, sharing stories around the fire, or cracking a joke mid-retreat, Roberto shows up with radical honesty and reverence for the power of true connection.
Roberto's Story
For decades, I moved through life hardened and disconnected, wearing armour that shielded my heart but prevented me from truly living.
My story began when I immigrated to Canada just before my eleventh birthday, leaving behind my ‘bruncles’ - my uncles by birth, but my brothers in every way. They were my world, my protectors, and my closest companions.
Landing in a new country with a new language and culture, I became introverted… not by nature, but by necessity. Walls went up fast, and for years I stayed behind them.
My teenage years were filled with anger and emotional suppression. I didn’t know how to express what I felt, and I had been conditioned not to even try. By the time I was in my first serious relationship, I lacked the tools and maturity to build something lasting.
Still, I tried. I had a son. I got married… twice. And both times, I repeated the same cycles of self-destruction, disconnection, resentment, and avoidance.
My education and experience was obtained through the “school of hard knocks”, where brutal realities shaped me.
For years, I channelled my pain into vengeance, using shallow connections to temporarily fill a void that only grew deeper.
Near the end of my second marriage, something started to shift. A quiet knowing began to emerge… an invitation to find purpose, to heal, to seek a new way of being.
I began listening to that inner wisdom, and slowly, I started to change.
Then, I met Kim.
Our connection was immediate and soul-deep. It scared me… but it also cracked me open.
With Kim, I learned what true intimacy feels like. I learned to speak my truth. I learned to trust. And I learned that my strength doesn’t live in walls or weapons - it lives in presence, in devotion, and in being fully myself.
Today, I bring that same devotion to our retreats.
My lifelong passion for health and wellness has become something even more meaningful. I care about functional strength… the kind that keeps you strong, flexible, grounded, and vital for decades to come. Whether it’s carrying firewood, hiking trails, or holding your partner through hard truths, I believe every man should feel strong enough to show up.
At Phoenix Rising, I help create spaces for couples to reconnect with nature, with each other, and with the truth of who they are. I believe our masculine power is most alive when it’s in service to something sacred.
This work isn’t about being perfect. It’s about becoming whole.
And if I can rise… so can you.
~ Roberto
Phoenix Rising's
Our Story
In the summer of 2024, Phoenix Rising Retreats emerged as an inspired vision from an intimate fireside conversation, and has served as a North Star for us since.
On that fateful night by the flames, after a year of intentionally deepening into our tantra practices together, we explored our deepest desires for our future.
Our conversation ignited a calling within us both-
to create a space of restoration of wellness & wholeness for the body, mind, and soul for ourselves first and then for couples.
Over the next several months, as we continued to explore our vision
for Phoenix Rising...
we reflected on our own profound transformation in our own relationship as we continued to practice intentional, intimate “date nights” within the
sanctuary of our own home.
These moments of exploration allowed us to deeply explore tantra, conscious communication and sacred sexuality as a couple in a way that continued to exceed our wildest desires.
Neither of us had ever felt this seen, this understood, this loved, this safe and this connected…in and out of the bedroom.
It was deeply healing and created an extraordinary connection that we’d never imagined possible.
Our transformation as a couple began to stoke the flames of a desire to co-create trauma informed spaces for other couples who desired to experience the deeper, more intimate connection that we had experienced.
From this place, we narrowed our focus on creating immersive retreat experiences for couples who desire to explore the depth and breadth of intimacy through tantra, sacred sexuality, & other regulated, restorative practices.
As our relationships with ourselves and each other transformed, we continued the search for our dream property- an intimate lakeside cottage setting, centered in a physical environment conducive to deep emotional exploration and relational growth, far removed from the distractions of daily life.
While our quest for the ideal location presented its share of challenges and unforeseen hurdles (including 5 moves, a house fire, and more!)...
our persistence and clarity of vision ultimately guided us to a property that remarkably fulfilled nearly every specific desire on our dream list.
When we walked onto the Phoenix Rising Property, we instantly knew, in our souls, this was the special place we were meant to bring our dream to fruition.
We fell in love within moments, walking barefoot in the grass, feeling the groundedness of the granite rock foundation underneath, taking in the phenomenal 400-foot lakefront view.
Buying our property felt less like a home purchase and more like a destined calling, an affirmation of our decision to follow our intuitive guidance that had been leading us since that fateful fireside chat 6 months prior…honestly, since we met.
This entire journey - from that initial spark of inspiration to now as we wake up each morning and stare out our front windows at our realized vision- has strengthened our abilities to surrender and trust, and our willingness to embrace uncertainty and vulnerability.
The name Phoenix Rising holds profound, personal significance for us- it echoes our parallel life experiences and has further solidified the bedrock of our personal partnership.
The Phoenix signifies rebirth, renewal and triumph over adversity, and its metaphorical rising from the ashes serves as a reminder of the restoration of hope, healing, and wholeness that is possible for us all- if we choose it.
And, true to her nature, the Phoenix has provided a robust foundation for the creation of what is now both our home and our retreat space.
Phoenix Rising is testament to our innate ability to rise from past challenges, to trust our intuition, and to build something meaningful- together.
Kim's Story
For a long time, I was stuck in survival mode.
I was doing everything “right” — raising three kids, running a business, keeping up appearances in a marriage that didn’t feel true — but inside, I was numb, exhausted, and disconnected from myself.
I had lost my spark.
And my body knew it.
Lower back pain, adrenal fatigue, thyroid issues… my nervous system was screaming for a different way. I started to listen.
In 2013, I began slowly reclaiming my boundaries, my body, and my voice.
In 2017, I dove all the way in. I trained with mentors like Layla Martin, Regina Thomashauer, Sheila Kelley, Ma Ananda Sarita and more. I learned how to regulate my nervous system, embody my sensuality, and connect deeply to my truth.
And I began to thrive.
But even as I helped other women and couples do the same… I had to face a deeper truth in my own life.
My marriage was no longer aligned.
Leaving was the hardest decision I’ve ever made — and the most liberating. It cracked me open, tested everything I’d learned, and asked me to trust myself like never before.
That trust led me to Roberto.
Our connection was instant and soul-deep. For the first time, I felt safe enough to be all of me — soft, strong, sensual, messy, honest. We created Phoenix Rising Retreats together as a sacred space where others could do the same.
Today, I combine 15+ years of coaching experience with a trauma-informed, embodied approach to intimacy, Tantra, and relationship healing. I help couples and women reconnect with their truth- through the body, through pleasure, and through love.
Because I believe with my whole heart…
You were never meant to settle.
You were meant to come alive and thrive.
With love,
Kim 💋