When Is The Right Time For A Retreat?
Most couples wait until they’re running on fumes to ask for support. The sex is flat, communication feels impossible, and they’re basically living like roommates.
But here’s the truth:
Waiting until your relationship is in crisis makes the journey back so much harder.
On Episode 279 of Get Your Sexy Back for Couples, Kim & Roberto discuss how retreats aren’t just for couples “in trouble.”
They’re for couples who want to keep choosing each other... keep deepening intimacy... and keep their love alive before the tank runs empty.
Here are their top takeaways.
(P.S. Want to listen to today's episode? Tune in on Apple or Spotify here.
Don’t wait until things fall apart
Google might tell you to seek a retreat or therapy “before or during challenges.” But if you wait until resentment is stacked high or you barely feel connected... it’s already a steep uphill climb.
Instead, think of a retreat as filling your relationship’s gas tank- before it hits empty.
It’s maintenance, not emergency repair.
A retreat isn’t counselling... it’s expansion
Counselling often rehashes problems. Retreats are different. You’re not sitting in front of a stranger retelling every story.
Instead, you’re learning tools that bring you closer now — practices to slow down, communicate with honesty, and create safety for real vulnerability.
This isn’t about fixing what’s broken... it’s about building intimacy most of us were never taught to create.
Discover the many faces of intimacy
So many people think intimacy = sex.
But at a retreat you explore five different types of intimacy:
Emotional — feeling truly seen and heard.
Intellectual — sparking curiosity and deeper conversations.
Physical — touch that soothes and connects beyond sex.
Spiritual — connecting through nature, breath, or shared meaning.
Sexual — sacred erotic exploration, free from shame.
When you expand intimacy in all these directions, your partnership transforms.
Build your relationship’s toolbox
Most of us are winging it in relationships, because no one handed us the tools (or taught us how to use them.
Retreats give you those tools — communication practices, tantric intimacy, nervous system regulation, and ways to navigate conflict without losing connection.
This toolbox is what allows love to last.
The best time to go is… now
Whether you’re newly together, ten years in, or decades deep, the right time to invest in your love is before you think you “need” it.
Don’t wait for crisis.
Choose each other now.
💫 If your gut is nudging you, trust it.
Our Group Retreats at Phoenix Rising are now open for registration.
Here’s what you can expect November 20–24:
• A safe, intimate container where every couple chooses growth
• Practices that help you witness and be witnessed without judgment
• Opportunities to see yourself through the lens of others’ experiences
• Time to integrate and connect privately with your partner
We’re keeping this retreat small - just 5 couples - so you get the intimacy and support you deserve. Rooms (GeoDomes or cottages) are chosen first-come, first-served.
👉 Reserve your retreat spot now! Click here to book that spot.
PS: If November doesn’t fit your calendar, our February retreats are also open at the same link.
If you are still unsure if this is the right fit for you, book a call with us, and we’ll explore if a private or group retreat at Phoenix Rising feels right for you and your partner.
👉 No pressure, just honest conversation. Book your free Exploration Call here.
Because the truth is… your relationship deserves more than survival. It deserves to thrive.
With Love,
